For someone who has just quit smoking weed, a new romantic relationship can seem Heaven-sent. The pain and struggles of quitting somehow seem easier to bear when we have someone we love by our side and we are much less likely to give in to a temptation to have a drink or roll a joint, when we have exciting plans to look forward to with our new ‘other half’. However, rushing into a relationship may be an attempt to chase the positive emotions which that we got from MJ. When you are first quitting or experiencing marijuana withdrawal symptoms taking it nice and slow is the wisest option.
Signs you are taking it too fast
You may be rushing into a relationship if you find that you are spending too much time with your loved one after a short period of dating, and feeling empty or anxious when they are not by your side. It is easy to see how worry and negative feelings can make it easy to lean on marijuana, at the precise moment when you should be working on yourself. Excessive gift giving and messaging are additional tell-tale signs that your new relationship may be taking the place of an old addiction.
What happens when you rush into love?
Moving too quickly into a relationship is a red flag for codependency. This type of relationship starts out feeling like true love, but instead of being based on love, it is based on need and is doomed to fail. When you are attempting to end your marijuana addiction or other substances can be at a particularly high risk of codependency, because you can have difficulty identifying, owning and regulating emotions. Your thought processes may be temporarily altered and you can find it hard to accurately interpret words and events. It is best to work on recovering completely and building your own internal strength, before embarking on a relationship.
Tips to Avoid Rushing into Romance
Don’t risk compromising your recovery when you are learning how to quit smoking weed. Follow these handy tips to make sure you are truly ready to be with someone:
- Don’t tie relationship decisions to a calendar event: Avoid proposing marriage or making a commitment just because it is someone’s birthday, or because it is Christmas, Valentine’s or New Year’s Eve.
- Stay on the same page as your partner: Don’t assume your partner is at the same stage of your romance as you are. Talk about where you are, but don’t force a talk about commitment too soon.
- Be true to yourself: Try to gain perspective and see yourself and your relationship in as realistic a light as is possible. If you can honestly say that you are ready to take the next step with your partner because you want to, not because you need to, or are attempting to replace the pain of marijuana withdrawal symptoms with relationship excitement, then it may be time to discuss this issue with your partner.
If not, work a little harder on making yourself happy as an individual; once you achieve the peace and fulfillment you have been yearning for, the rest will fall into place.
Thank you to Melissa Gale for this thoughtful article on Relationships and Marijuana Addiction. If you are interested in writing for the blog, please email me: john at quitmarijuana dot org.